Dinner Parties and Casual Conversations

    Most folks go home and enjoy a meal with their family without any type of hiccups or other mishaps.  Some of us spend the holiday alone.  Some of us dread going to see our families.  Some of us love to see our chosen families.  All I know that folks have an idea of how the holiday should be spent and go to great lengths to have it go smoothly.   Though, what's really interesting is that we never reflect on the conversations we have.  Casual or not, the conversations you have over dinner could be the most life-altering conversations  people could have.  Myself, I feel absolutely amazing when I have a conversation at a holiday nowadays.

    Being trans* is a whole jumble of everything you could imagine.  Though, how you play the cards you are dealt means you are going to surely persevere in the MOST amazing ways.  Though, when we eat dinner with our family (chosen or not).  You have more interesting conversations because the things Trans* people view as a privilege to have, most CIS gendered folks take it for granted because they have had the privileges they have had all their lives.  Myself I feel most happy to be able to have a conversations with my family and be who I am.  That's the most touching thing I can honestly imagine!   I can talk about sports, current events, and even rather random things.  I can also do my rants about gender and privilege.  My family, kinda just looks at me and go "Okay, that's you and we love who you are. So we are going to incorporate that into our lives."  They do.  It's pleasant to know that they are just that awesome.

    I know most people who are Trans* don't get to have that privilege, and that makes me very sad to know that I was given such a wonderful life.  I hate it because I want to be able to connect to everyone and know what that is like, ya know?  I love those people to death and would give my life to do anything for them, because they really are the unsung heroes of this Genderation.  So, I want them to know that!  I want them to know that even though they are having a horrible time with family or friends that I love them.  I am here for them.  I am fighting daily to ensure that they are having a life worth leading.  Folks, it takes time but before I die we are going to finally have a place in this world.  I ensure and promise this!